Thankfulness Thursday-Things to think about…
My sweet Sister-in-Love over at SomeGirl’s Website hosts”Thought-provoking Thursday”. Sometimes I take part, usually I just lurk. The articles that link are usually uplifting and (as the name states) thought-provoking.
I am also linking up with Shell @ Things I can’t say~ for pour your heart out.
I had an eye-opening experience this week. It’s sometimes hard to remember to be thankful.
It’s an important lesson, I’m trying to remember…..trying not to forget.
I, like many mothers all over the United States, am gearing up for back to school. I have spent more money that I care to talk about on new clothing, school supplies and lunch boxes. I’m not done yet, middle school students here in my area don’t get school supply lists until school starts. School starts on August 22nd.
I stress about the amount of money I am spending on back to school. My husband and I save up for back to school, so that the sheer impact of the money spent on back to school does not hurt our monthly budget. It’s crazy. Like a car payment crazy…Meh.
Don’t. Get. Me. Started.
I’ve bought 5 new shirts and 5 new pairs of pants per kid, bought undergarments, bought socks and belts. I’ve bought binders, pencils, notebook paper, pens, a backpack and lunch boxes. It’s a lot of stuff. It does not seem like enough though. I felt guilty.
Yes, guilty that I had not bought more. Was 5 outfits per kid enough? Was I doing them wrong? I started feeling like maybe I was.
I began mentally beating myself up for not being able to afford more, do more, be better. Somehow, I made myself into a bad mother because I had not planned for a whole closet full of new clothing.
Silly? Yes, but I still felt bad.
I’m not feeling guilty anymore and it’s due to a comment made by a sweet cashier at a drug store.I am a creature of habit, I tend to go to the same drug stores and grocery stores each week. Since I coupon shop I am extra friendly. I’m not sure if it helps offset the massive couponing I do, but it sure makes my time in the stores more pleasant. Because I am friendly, chatty even, store employees usually like me and sometimes we become “Store friends”. Store friends are people who I go out of my way to talk to when I am in the store they work at. If I see these people outside of the store they work at I am always happy to talk to them. We don’t hang out, we’ve never chatted on the phone, but they are nice people and I like them.
One of my store friends was our checkout cashier. We began talking about back to school, commiserating about the items we have to purchase…about the cost of clothing. She talked about needing to go to the 2nd hand store to pick up gently used clothing for one of her daughters, she talked about the fact that gently used was the best that she could do…. and it hit me.
Why was I beating myself up about school clothing? My store friend was doing the best that she could and so was I.
It’s no use eating beans for a month just so you can buy your kids more.
It’s clothing, not brain surgery.
It does not have to be perfect.
So, my thought for you to mill over today is:
- Be Thankful for what you have and what you can afford
- Be grateful for the things you can provied and for the things that are provided for you
- Let the best that you can do…..Be Enough
Because it is enough, at the end of their childhood my kids won’t be fussing about how many pairs of school clothing they had.
If they have issues, it won’t be school uniforms.