The Power and Love in a word.
What things do you say to your children that might seem mean or unfair to them, but are words you speak with love?
(An open letter to my children)
As you have grown, you’ve heard the word “NO” quite of lot. In fact, “No” was one of your first words. Of course, your first words were hi, bebe, mummum and dadda, but “No” was soon to follow. What you didn’t realize then, may still not realize now, that I hope you will someday realize is…….I say “No” because I love you.
In the beginning the No’s were little. No, baby please don’t touch that. No, baby that could burn you. No, baby please don’t put that in your mouth. No, baby please don’t play with that.
As you grew, so did the “No”s. No, I’m sorry, it’s not okay to cut a plugged in electrical cord with scissors. No, I’m sorry, it’s not okay to bite your sibling..just because you’re mad. No, we can’t have a pony…please stop yelling. No, you can not jump off the roof of the house.
All of these things I deny, because I love you.
You are both entering teen hood. You are both becoming wonderful, loving, intelligent young people. As you move through puberty and find out about new and even more dangerous things I will continue to say “No”.
I’m sure you will believe that your Dad and I are horrible and mean at some point.
I’m also sure that at some time during your teen years, you will probably believe that you truly hate us.
You won’t really hate us, but you’ll feel like you do. During this time I will still love you, and I will still say “No”.
When you were young we read you the book:
We wanted to make sure that you always remembered that we were on your side, that we loved you and that we would always be there. That has not changed and it will never change.
If you do something wrong, we will still love you.
When your grown and have children of your own I’m sure you will understand that “No” does mean I love you.
Until then, just remember that We love you………and put that 2nd cookie back in the cookie jar. No, I’m sorry, you’ve already had 1 cookie and 1 is enough.